This dress stress that A and I have been dealing with all week has taken a toll. We are both cranky, irratible, on-edge and just flat-out tired.
When we chose this dress, with the help of the girls at the dress shop, I don't think that either of us even considered the dress to be the type to cause even the slighest controversy. Now it seems to be the center of our lives. Ridiculous. Honestly.
Herein lies the problem. The dress shows a very small amount of abdominal skin in a V pattern. The bottom of the V is at the top of A's belly button. And it is not a gaping V. I am her mother, for goodness sake, I would not let her go out in something that showed all of her "stuff" hanging out.
We are having the dress altered to include what is called a "modesty piece" so that the skin that you see in the V, will be covered. We are still having to jump through hoops. And it has become very tiring. I've seen way "worse" dresses being worn to the school dances, yet no one else has ever had to go through this scrutiny.
I am hoping that the whole dress issue is laid to rest today. Please hope for us that it is in a positive way.
Friday, January 18, 2008
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
I am racist and my daughter is a skank
Give me a moment while I pick my jaw up off of the floor, pick my eyeballs up and put them back into my head and get some q-tips to clean my ears.
Let me explain...
I received a forwarded email this morning about Barack Obama. I will not post it here, but will say that it was not a very nice email. I am not one to automatically believe what I hear about others, so I copied and pasted the email contents and pasted to a post in OT on FF for assistance in knowing whether the information I received was true or not. I am NOT up on politics or religions other than Christianity. Which is all the more reason why I asked for help - since I, basically, know nothing.
This is an excerpt of one of the replies to my question: "Do you know anything about this man? Or are you just racist against all Muslims?"
When I read that comment, my mouth hit the floor and my eyes popped out of my head. You have got to be kidding me! I am racist against no one - period. I can't believe something like that was posted to ME! Obviously this person has no clue about me. Obviously. But it still threw me for a loop that someone could blatantly disregard my words (asking for help) and read into my post something totally out of line - about me. Wow.
And now about my daughter being a skank. Obviously she is not. But she is a lovely young lady (in personality and looks) that other young ladies are becoming jealous of. These other young ladies are supposed to be friends of my daughter. I've never had a "friend" call me names before. Another wow. It amazes me (and not in a good way) that these girls are so nasty to each other. None of them are ever happy for each other. It's all some big contest and if you aren't the "winner" of whatever the topic of the day is, then the "winner" is called nasty names. Shame on you girls. And shame on your parents for not teaching you how to be a better person than that. Where does this hatefulness come from?
Instead of picking on her/at her... why don't you girls try to be more like her? My daughter would never call any of you - her friends - a skank. Even if she thought it, deep down.
You women out there - who jump to conclusions, who assume, who have nastiness and hatred in your blood and attitudes... perhaps try a little forethought and kindness instead. :)
Let me explain...
I received a forwarded email this morning about Barack Obama. I will not post it here, but will say that it was not a very nice email. I am not one to automatically believe what I hear about others, so I copied and pasted the email contents and pasted to a post in OT on FF for assistance in knowing whether the information I received was true or not. I am NOT up on politics or religions other than Christianity. Which is all the more reason why I asked for help - since I, basically, know nothing.
This is an excerpt of one of the replies to my question: "Do you know anything about this man? Or are you just racist against all Muslims?"
When I read that comment, my mouth hit the floor and my eyes popped out of my head. You have got to be kidding me! I am racist against no one - period. I can't believe something like that was posted to ME! Obviously this person has no clue about me. Obviously. But it still threw me for a loop that someone could blatantly disregard my words (asking for help) and read into my post something totally out of line - about me. Wow.
And now about my daughter being a skank. Obviously she is not. But she is a lovely young lady (in personality and looks) that other young ladies are becoming jealous of. These other young ladies are supposed to be friends of my daughter. I've never had a "friend" call me names before. Another wow. It amazes me (and not in a good way) that these girls are so nasty to each other. None of them are ever happy for each other. It's all some big contest and if you aren't the "winner" of whatever the topic of the day is, then the "winner" is called nasty names. Shame on you girls. And shame on your parents for not teaching you how to be a better person than that. Where does this hatefulness come from?
Instead of picking on her/at her... why don't you girls try to be more like her? My daughter would never call any of you - her friends - a skank. Even if she thought it, deep down.
You women out there - who jump to conclusions, who assume, who have nastiness and hatred in your blood and attitudes... perhaps try a little forethought and kindness instead. :)
Monday, January 14, 2008
Being Civil / Letting go
One of the best lessons in life, that I have learned, is how to "let things go". There is no sense in me holding on to anger and hatred for something that was said or done to me. It doesn't give "pay back" to the person who wronged me or hurt my feelings. It only hurts *me* to hang on to those negative feelings. Sometimes that is not so easy. And sometimes those hurt, angry, hateful feelings can come back when someone else doesn't feel like I do... and continues on.
This doesn't mean that I am a baby and afraid of standing up. I'm all for standing up for myself, my feelings, my words and my actions. But once "it" is done. "It" is done. There is no sense in carrying "it" forward.
I wish everyone in this world felt the same way. It would be so much easier for everyone to just get along. Kum-bah-ya Lord, Kum-bah-ya. :)
And once "it" is over, be civil. You don't have to like the person. You don't have to like or agree with their beliefs, thoughts, opinions, actions, etc... but you can be civil. They are their own person, just like you are your own. They have every right to be themself just as you do. Let them go on with being themself. :)
Stand up when it is important, and sit down to enjoy life for the rest of the time. :)
Oh Lord.... Kum-bah-ya. =D
This doesn't mean that I am a baby and afraid of standing up. I'm all for standing up for myself, my feelings, my words and my actions. But once "it" is done. "It" is done. There is no sense in carrying "it" forward.
I wish everyone in this world felt the same way. It would be so much easier for everyone to just get along. Kum-bah-ya Lord, Kum-bah-ya. :)
And once "it" is over, be civil. You don't have to like the person. You don't have to like or agree with their beliefs, thoughts, opinions, actions, etc... but you can be civil. They are their own person, just like you are your own. They have every right to be themself just as you do. Let them go on with being themself. :)
Stand up when it is important, and sit down to enjoy life for the rest of the time. :)
Oh Lord.... Kum-bah-ya. =D
Saturday, January 12, 2008
One of those days
Ever have one of those days? Where it starts out bad and just gets worse and worse? We all have, right?
How about one of those days that just starts out great and continues to get better? Those don't happen very often, do they? :)
Well, I'm having one of those days. :) It actually started last night when I got home, I found out that my daughter has been nominated to be on the Teenettes Dance Court. They choose two freshman, two sophomores, two juniors and four seniors - then a queen is chosen from those girls. The vote was taken yesterday, so we don't know if she will actually be on the court yet, but I think it is awesome that other girls thought enough of her to even nominate her. :) Yay A!!!! =D
Then I get up this morning and heed to the call of the scale (my problem while losing weight is to get weighed every day!). Much to my surprise, I lost 1.8 pounds! Yay Me! :) I have lost 33.2 pounds since 10/8/07. My goal for 1/8/08 - 2/8/08 was to lose an additional 8 pounds. I am already 3.2 pounds into that goal! I am very excited and proud of myself! =D
Today A and I are going dress shopping for the Teenettes Dance. She has something in mind that she saw before and we are hoping to find it today. :) Wish us luck!
How about one of those days that just starts out great and continues to get better? Those don't happen very often, do they? :)
Well, I'm having one of those days. :) It actually started last night when I got home, I found out that my daughter has been nominated to be on the Teenettes Dance Court. They choose two freshman, two sophomores, two juniors and four seniors - then a queen is chosen from those girls. The vote was taken yesterday, so we don't know if she will actually be on the court yet, but I think it is awesome that other girls thought enough of her to even nominate her. :) Yay A!!!! =D
Then I get up this morning and heed to the call of the scale (my problem while losing weight is to get weighed every day!). Much to my surprise, I lost 1.8 pounds! Yay Me! :) I have lost 33.2 pounds since 10/8/07. My goal for 1/8/08 - 2/8/08 was to lose an additional 8 pounds. I am already 3.2 pounds into that goal! I am very excited and proud of myself! =D
Today A and I are going dress shopping for the Teenettes Dance. She has something in mind that she saw before and we are hoping to find it today. :) Wish us luck!
Friday, January 11, 2008
Haters
Since I have no where else to put it - even though I don't know if the "right" people will see it - I just wanted to say that I REALLY don't care if you don't like me. I don't care if you think I've gone through all of the shit in my life because of karma. I don't care if you think I am the author of the FertilityFriendDrama blog.
And for those who like to be anonymous. Go ahead and keep hiding. I will stay out in the open and stand behind what I say and have enough "balls" to show my face when doing so.
For those of you who just like to beat people down - especially when they are going through something traumatic - you'll get yours. I am a firm believer in Karma.
ETA: I just wanted to post that all comments will be posted through. So, if you have something to say to me... spit it out.
And for those who like to be anonymous. Go ahead and keep hiding. I will stay out in the open and stand behind what I say and have enough "balls" to show my face when doing so.
For those of you who just like to beat people down - especially when they are going through something traumatic - you'll get yours. I am a firm believer in Karma.
ETA: I just wanted to post that all comments will be posted through. So, if you have something to say to me... spit it out.
Employers that don't give a flying crap about their employees
How is that even possible? Here shows my naivety yet again.
How can an employer expect their employees to be dedicated, want to give above and beyond, etc... when they don't give a flying crap about the employee?!?!
I've worked for large companies, I've worked for small companies. I've always (until now) worked for companies that treated their employees well - they care about them.
I've been able to temporarily adjust my work hours do to some family/child related emergency. I've been able to be a few minutes late due to issues. I've always had health coverage as promised. I've received bonuses, raises, etc... At my last job (for a small company), my DD was going to a dance and I couldn't afford to take her to the salon to get her hair done in addition to all of the other expenses. My boss heard, gave me his personal credit card and told me to go and get her hair done.
I now work for a company that promises it's employees health insurance after 90 days of continuous employment. There are people here who have been here over a year that STILL do not have coverage. I took it upon myself to do all of the leg work for the company to help my co-workers. The rates are in, the boss now just needs to pick a policy. All employees have been underwritten. I approached him about meeting to discuss the options and he said "I guess". Like it is such a nuisance to choose a health insurance plan for his employees!! WTF?!?!?!
I am outraged that an employer could care so little for the people who are working so hard for him. In a matter of just those few seconds, I have lost a TON of respect for that man.
As I've said numerous times in the past... I need a new job. Too bad the freaking job market in my small city is SO FREAKING HORRIBLE that there is nothing even available to apply for.
Grrrr......
If I won the lottery and had my own business, you bet your ass I'd treat them all well.
How can an employer expect their employees to be dedicated, want to give above and beyond, etc... when they don't give a flying crap about the employee?!?!
I've worked for large companies, I've worked for small companies. I've always (until now) worked for companies that treated their employees well - they care about them.
I've been able to temporarily adjust my work hours do to some family/child related emergency. I've been able to be a few minutes late due to issues. I've always had health coverage as promised. I've received bonuses, raises, etc... At my last job (for a small company), my DD was going to a dance and I couldn't afford to take her to the salon to get her hair done in addition to all of the other expenses. My boss heard, gave me his personal credit card and told me to go and get her hair done.
I now work for a company that promises it's employees health insurance after 90 days of continuous employment. There are people here who have been here over a year that STILL do not have coverage. I took it upon myself to do all of the leg work for the company to help my co-workers. The rates are in, the boss now just needs to pick a policy. All employees have been underwritten. I approached him about meeting to discuss the options and he said "I guess". Like it is such a nuisance to choose a health insurance plan for his employees!! WTF?!?!?!
I am outraged that an employer could care so little for the people who are working so hard for him. In a matter of just those few seconds, I have lost a TON of respect for that man.
As I've said numerous times in the past... I need a new job. Too bad the freaking job market in my small city is SO FREAKING HORRIBLE that there is nothing even available to apply for.
Grrrr......
If I won the lottery and had my own business, you bet your ass I'd treat them all well.
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
New Years Resolutions, Babys, Band, etc...
My friend "S" had her baby on Monday! Very exciting! And absolutely adorable!!!! :) Congrats to S & L on their new addition! :) And may all women look as beautiful as S after labor & delivery!!! Not even one hair out of place and perfect make-up! I guess that some women have "it" (S!) and some don't (Me!). LOL
My youngest son applied to be in All-Star band for our county. He was chosen from the applicants and was part of a 285 member concert band that practiced all day yesterday, then put on a performance at West Minster College last night. It was SO different than the normal band concerts that I've been attending for the last many years. I really enjoyed it! And am very proud of "R". He did a great job. :) Hoo-rah from Mom!!!
A few days ago, someone on FF posted a thread about New Years Resolutions. My reply at that time was to become more financially stable and to see if DH would agree to a resolution of having a better sex life. :) I've been thinking and in addition to those two items, I would also like to be as drama-free as possible. I will do my best to not get sucked in anymore. lol :) So, I've decided to give up trying to figure out who the drama blogger is and who Liberty is. It's just not worth my "mind space" anymore. :)
I'm working hard to follow my new lifestyle which recently started to incorporate "real" weight training. I had been doing weight training for obese people. That's the stuff you do while sitting down, using light weights, resistance bands and things like paper plates and rolled up towels. It got me started, but I have since moved on to bigger and better. :) I'm proud of myself that I am so dedicated and committed to doing this. I cannot wait to see what my body is going to look like at the completion of my goals!
My youngest son applied to be in All-Star band for our county. He was chosen from the applicants and was part of a 285 member concert band that practiced all day yesterday, then put on a performance at West Minster College last night. It was SO different than the normal band concerts that I've been attending for the last many years. I really enjoyed it! And am very proud of "R". He did a great job. :) Hoo-rah from Mom!!!
A few days ago, someone on FF posted a thread about New Years Resolutions. My reply at that time was to become more financially stable and to see if DH would agree to a resolution of having a better sex life. :) I've been thinking and in addition to those two items, I would also like to be as drama-free as possible. I will do my best to not get sucked in anymore. lol :) So, I've decided to give up trying to figure out who the drama blogger is and who Liberty is. It's just not worth my "mind space" anymore. :)
I'm working hard to follow my new lifestyle which recently started to incorporate "real" weight training. I had been doing weight training for obese people. That's the stuff you do while sitting down, using light weights, resistance bands and things like paper plates and rolled up towels. It got me started, but I have since moved on to bigger and better. :) I'm proud of myself that I am so dedicated and committed to doing this. I cannot wait to see what my body is going to look like at the completion of my goals!
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
Eyebrows and the pain of "beauty"
Okay, who invented eyebrow waxing? Why are "natural" brows not just "naturally" acceptable? Who decided that eyebrows needed "tending to"??? Huh? Probably some guy. There is always "some guy" that is behind every painful "beauty" regimine that we somehow buy into and subject ourselves to. WTH?
Eyebrow waxing, stilettos, pantyhose, hours of working on hair, hours of working on makeup. The burn of hair dye. Mascara in the eyeball. Water bras, underwire. Deoderant that feels like it will never dry or that leaves "balls" in the pit (even if it is freshly shaven). Bikini waxing. Powder here, perfume there, toothpaste, floss, mouthwash. Hair gel, mousse, hair straighteners, hair curlers.
What is it that men have to do in comparision? Doesn't seem quite fair, huh? Do you know that the human species is the only species where the female attracts the male with her efforts? It is usually the other way around. Not fair. LOL
Eyebrow waxing, stilettos, pantyhose, hours of working on hair, hours of working on makeup. The burn of hair dye. Mascara in the eyeball. Water bras, underwire. Deoderant that feels like it will never dry or that leaves "balls" in the pit (even if it is freshly shaven). Bikini waxing. Powder here, perfume there, toothpaste, floss, mouthwash. Hair gel, mousse, hair straighteners, hair curlers.
What is it that men have to do in comparision? Doesn't seem quite fair, huh? Do you know that the human species is the only species where the female attracts the male with her efforts? It is usually the other way around. Not fair. LOL
Monday, January 7, 2008
Yeah Toast!
Sometimes life is as simple and un-eventful as the song "Yeah Toast". lol That's about how it is lately, other than the blog "stuff" that is going on. :)
The Steelers lost their first round playoff game on Saturday night. What a freaking bummer. And what a good/intense game to watch. I was literally on the edge of my seat during some of it. Wow. I'm still a Steelers fan though - I'm diehard, through and through. We'll get'em next year guys! :)
And for the record... I will NEVER root for the Cowboys because that is my ex-h's team. He shoves them down my throat whenever possible - and rips on the Steelers when possible. I have a feeling that they will make it to the superbowl - which means I'll be cheering on the OTHER team - whomever that may be. lol =D (No offense to the Cowboys or their fans.)
My "baby", my youngest will be turning FOURTEEN in less than 2 months. Where in the world did 14 years go?????? Amazing.
I'm pumping iron, folks. Can you believe it? I can hardly. LOL I've never done weights in my life (other than pissing with the bar a few times when my brother got his weight set). I am like a new person. I hope that my core self stays the same. Although I'm sure that my mom will make sure that I don't get too confident in myself. She has this need/desire (??) to always make sure that her thoughts and opinions are known to me and all of my family as well as my brother. She just has this underlying nastiness that comes out more often than we'd like. Wonder why she is like that? She doesn't even know she's doing it - I'm sure of it. So if she doesn't know she is doing it, how would she be able to answer that question, if I even posed it?
My friend "S" is having her baby today! She's being induced today and I can't wait for an update!!! I wish her a speedy and easy labor! :)
Not much to say, so....
10-4. Over and out good buddy.
The Steelers lost their first round playoff game on Saturday night. What a freaking bummer. And what a good/intense game to watch. I was literally on the edge of my seat during some of it. Wow. I'm still a Steelers fan though - I'm diehard, through and through. We'll get'em next year guys! :)
And for the record... I will NEVER root for the Cowboys because that is my ex-h's team. He shoves them down my throat whenever possible - and rips on the Steelers when possible. I have a feeling that they will make it to the superbowl - which means I'll be cheering on the OTHER team - whomever that may be. lol =D (No offense to the Cowboys or their fans.)
My "baby", my youngest will be turning FOURTEEN in less than 2 months. Where in the world did 14 years go?????? Amazing.
I'm pumping iron, folks. Can you believe it? I can hardly. LOL I've never done weights in my life (other than pissing with the bar a few times when my brother got his weight set). I am like a new person. I hope that my core self stays the same. Although I'm sure that my mom will make sure that I don't get too confident in myself. She has this need/desire (??) to always make sure that her thoughts and opinions are known to me and all of my family as well as my brother. She just has this underlying nastiness that comes out more often than we'd like. Wonder why she is like that? She doesn't even know she's doing it - I'm sure of it. So if she doesn't know she is doing it, how would she be able to answer that question, if I even posed it?
My friend "S" is having her baby today! She's being induced today and I can't wait for an update!!! I wish her a speedy and easy labor! :)
Not much to say, so....
10-4. Over and out good buddy.
Thursday, January 3, 2008
Introductory Post
Okay, so I had a blog here a couple years ago and it got lost by the wayside. I don't remember the login anymore and it is sooooo very old now that I just decided to start a new one. For anyone who cares to reminisce here is the URL: http://allshousefamily.blogspot.com. I am now 39, DH is 40. The kids are 19, 15 and 13 - so you can really see how old it is!
So, why start a new blog when I never kept up with the old blog? Because I feel the need to put myself back out here due to "recent events".
For the record (and believe what you want), I am not the author of any other blog. I am not the kind of person (and if you knew me well, you'd already know this) who would post or say anything "anonymously". I have a voice and I use it. I stand behind my thoughts and beliefs so there is never a need for me to not present my thoughts and beliefs openly - as myself.
I am NOT into drama. I *HATE* drama. I have had more drama in my life, in my past than I ever imagined possible. I do NOT want drama in my life. I try to avoid it as much as possible, although sometimes it gets the best of me and I'm sucked in. But, I much prefer calm, peace, harmony, serenity, joy... all of the good things in life. More times than I can count, I have said to myself, and aloud, "Why can't we all just get along???"
And I do believe that peace and harmony is possible in a group of women. All participants just need to be mature/adult about things. I am part of a group of women and we accomplish this EVERY DAY. There are no cat fights. There is only love and support - even when we disagree with each other. Yah, sounds hookey to anyone on the outside, I'm sure. But it is true. They are the BEST group of friends anyone could ever have. I know that I can count on them for anything and everything.
DH and I are no longer TTC. We gave that up quite a while ago now. I just don't think it was in the cards for us. And I'm okay with that - so is DH. "My" kids are all big now (and I say that in quotes because DH feels they are his too and I'm just being facetious about it, lol) and honestly I don't think I would want to start over with an infant.... toddler... again. I like the freedom and interaction that I have with my "big" kids now. :)
My new focus, is to live a healthier lifestyle. I am NOT dieting. Diets work to take off the weight, sure. But they do NOT work in keeping the weight off. I've struggled with my weight since I was 7. Enough is enough. I don't want to struggle anymore. I want to be healthy, feel healthy and be a healthy weight. As of today, I have lost 31.4 pounds. I do believe that is all fat loss as I am working hard to retain lean muscle mass with proper nutrition, cardio and weight training. I cannot wait until I reach the light at the end of the tunnel. :)
So, why start a new blog when I never kept up with the old blog? Because I feel the need to put myself back out here due to "recent events".
For the record (and believe what you want), I am not the author of any other blog. I am not the kind of person (and if you knew me well, you'd already know this) who would post or say anything "anonymously". I have a voice and I use it. I stand behind my thoughts and beliefs so there is never a need for me to not present my thoughts and beliefs openly - as myself.
I am NOT into drama. I *HATE* drama. I have had more drama in my life, in my past than I ever imagined possible. I do NOT want drama in my life. I try to avoid it as much as possible, although sometimes it gets the best of me and I'm sucked in. But, I much prefer calm, peace, harmony, serenity, joy... all of the good things in life. More times than I can count, I have said to myself, and aloud, "Why can't we all just get along???"
And I do believe that peace and harmony is possible in a group of women. All participants just need to be mature/adult about things. I am part of a group of women and we accomplish this EVERY DAY. There are no cat fights. There is only love and support - even when we disagree with each other. Yah, sounds hookey to anyone on the outside, I'm sure. But it is true. They are the BEST group of friends anyone could ever have. I know that I can count on them for anything and everything.
DH and I are no longer TTC. We gave that up quite a while ago now. I just don't think it was in the cards for us. And I'm okay with that - so is DH. "My" kids are all big now (and I say that in quotes because DH feels they are his too and I'm just being facetious about it, lol) and honestly I don't think I would want to start over with an infant.... toddler... again. I like the freedom and interaction that I have with my "big" kids now. :)
My new focus, is to live a healthier lifestyle. I am NOT dieting. Diets work to take off the weight, sure. But they do NOT work in keeping the weight off. I've struggled with my weight since I was 7. Enough is enough. I don't want to struggle anymore. I want to be healthy, feel healthy and be a healthy weight. As of today, I have lost 31.4 pounds. I do believe that is all fat loss as I am working hard to retain lean muscle mass with proper nutrition, cardio and weight training. I cannot wait until I reach the light at the end of the tunnel. :)
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